A friend sent us an online profile of a married man who had registered on a swinger's site, looking for extramarital sex. He put several pictures up of himself and openly admitted he was married with a small child. He explained that his wife's sex drive had gotten lower since the birth of their daughter, and he hoped to add to his sex life by hooking up with some "swingers." He lives in a town with a medium-sized population, small enough that many citizens probably know him.

He works at a professional business, greets the public and travels. He could be your friend. He could be your father or your brother. He could be your husband. In his profile, he apologizes if being a married man wanting to cheat and swing with strangers offends any of the swinging couples on the site. Do you think he is equally concerned with offending his wife? How is this man so certain his wife won't find out he is posted on this site?

How does he know that the neighbors next door aren't swingers? They could see his profile and share the details with his wife, family and friends. How is he so sure he won't be recognized by business contacts or the public, negatively affecting his career and perhaps placing his family in economic jeopardy? What is it about the internet that makes this husband and father think he will remain anonymous when posting pictures, the town he lives in and details of his family on a popular website

If you were his wife, would you want to know about his profile? What would your reaction be if you found out? In a young marriage and with a young child, the grief and devastation she would face if she knew and the unwanted choices she would have to make would be life-altering and life-changing. Why would this man choose to cheat so openly when the pain for his wife and child would be so not worth it? If you saw his profile and you knew him, what would you do? Share your thoughts